While I appreciate that there my be D/s relationships that exist outside of the BDSM world, the topic of this article is "Domination & submission (BDSM)" and it should stay true to that theme.
If someone wants to do an article on non-BDSM D/s, I encourage them to do so and link it from this article, but please don't attempt to re-write the article into something it is not.
BDSM is NOT a paraphilia or a group of paraphilias. The author should consult the DSM or a degreed professional psychology educator to get accurate information. Paraphilia describes a certain range of very specific conditions. While it may be included within the spectrum of BDSM it is neither a specific or general characteristic of all BDSM and its participants in general. Master Martin, Kansas City
BDSM as a term is not referenced in the DSM, it is colloquial. However - bondage, sadism, masochism, humiliation and many other aspects of BDSM are defined in the DSM-IV-TR under sections 302.83 and 302.84 as paraphilias. As such, it is acurate to refer to BDSM as a "group of paraphilias".
It is also commonly defined that BDSM refers to Bondage, dicipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism, and as such it accurate to describe D/s as "considered part of the BDSM group of paraphilias".
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=BDSM
While it may be possible to conduct a D/s relationship without entering into the clinical definition of a paraphilia, (as discussed in the article) it is still correct to say that D/s is widely "considered part of the BDSM group of paraphilias", in both the clinical and popular environments.
It should be noted that a reference to behaviors as being paraphilias does not imply their being pathological or requiring of treatment, just that they conform to a certain identifiable pattern. --Outlander 15:27, 25 July 2005 (UTC)[reply]
Reading this article it would seem that D/s (and perhaps even BDSM) is a perfectly healthy, normal lifestyle. Is it too politically incorrect to ask that there be a section regarding criticisms of D/s or how to recover from a D/s relationship gone bad?
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To respond to "BDSM refers to Bondage, dicipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism, and as such it accurate to describe D/s as "considered part of the BDSM group of paraphilias"."
You are mistaken. Despite the opinion of a few, while mainstrean BDSM does happen to contain the letters DS, it does not contain D/s. Do a history on The term D/s. It was not in use at all at the time that the term BDSM was coined and popularized, which occured in the circulation of papers advertising those which sought for play partners in the 1970's and sought to describe a list of frequently interelated playstyles. Prior to the term "BDSM" It began on both the East Coast (NY) and West Coast (CA) with the individual terms B&D and S&M which were later consolidated into BDSM , meaning Bondage and Discipline and/or Sadism and Machosism.
Moreover, the term D/s is not D & S. The letters cannot stand individually. The D is capitalized but the /s is in the primary position as a denominator, thus the elements of the term are unified into one in an interdependent and symbiotic relationship. D/s is a descriptive term defining the willingness of the partners to engage in a acknowleged and strategic and definitive redistribution of power during the course of the interaction, at varying levels, times and intensity depending on each couples preferences.
The term was coined in the 1980's but in reality the dynamic was used both within and outside of the BDSM communities throughout history. The most common recorded application being within the realm of religion, where one or the other partner is encouraged to yeild or "submit themselves" to the preferences of ones partner. Perhaps it goes back even futher, animals including human ones have a core instinct to dominate or submit, run, or attack.
Also, why should there be "two" D/s's... one BDSM D/s and one "non BDSM" D/s, when the dynamic is one simple dynamic at the core, a disclosure that one partner will be submitting to the preferences of the other to some degree?
The fact that some BDSM play partners use a D/s dynamic does not alter the crux of the dynamic. The discussion of D/s should reveal it as simply "applicable to" BDSM "And many other popular lifestyles and situations" and "an integral element to some BDSM relationships". Thus it would make more sense to either Include is as a sub discussion of BDSM without it's own page, or better yet, give it it's own heading without BDSM and then link to BDSM from it's description/ content.
To consider an acknowledged D/s framework in a relationship equal to a "paraphilia" is to be unaware of the definition of either D/s or "paraphilia". Even applying the term to BDSM should be done with greater discrimination -- one should not fail to mention that many professionals, M.D.s and Ph.Ds disagree with such as sweeping catagorization of mainstream BDSM. and for good reason. With the advent of the internet it is now becomming more apparent that many activities are far more the norm than once supposed.
Also some endeavors once thought to be "paraphilia" are actually seen as healthy active fantasy outlets by professional contemporaries, when undertaken by healthy consenting adults. For example. the dictionary term "humiliation" is NOT the same as the term as applied by mainstream BDSMers. It differs greatly in it's intent, effect, application execution and result. It is actually thus "play" humiliation" or "Staged Humiliation Scenes". Making my girlfriend eat gummyworms from a plate on the floor whilst I "taunt" her, or calling her my "nasty little nymph" while lovemaking for example. (I don't do those terrible things, chill out).
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I've done a bit of reworking, trying to clean up the article, based on comments etc.
The introduction was long, and included a long section which can basically be summarized as "BDSM relationship styles", Ive moved that to its own section, cleaned up the intro a little, and added an overview to D/s.
I've also moved the "consent" stuff to its own article Consent (BDSM) (needs its own article, being so significant and having siverse issues, legal etc). Can someone precis the current text in this article to remove unnecessary duplication while leaving what's needed "bare bones"? Thanks
Last, doesn't a lot of this artuicle belong in BDSM generally, rather than specifically under D/s only? Wrong article? "More background can be found in the article on BDSM"? Or worth duplicating? FT2 04:21, 17 October 2005 (UTC)[reply]
Hey--no mention of Sade in the history section? Seems like a pretty big hole! He's an important guy for all this.
My experiences tells me that this is not true at all. There are almost exactly as many submissives as there are doms, and it is evenly distributed at the two genders. I could point to an old thread at a forum (the BDSM-forum at helgon.net, you need an account to get access) where they asked the users about their preferenses in D/s. The result was very close to 50% on each gender. However, this does not feel like a really waterproof evidence :/ Anyways, just walk into a club and see for yourself :P - - - *eats panncakes with icecream* Redk 00:44, 16 April 2006 (UTC)[reply]